week 5 dq post Katherine Brookshire

in most of the groups I have been in association with your point regarding “working out the problems” hits a huge problem. A lot of people live in a state of cognitive dissonance. Where if you point out their “issues” and disconnection from reality, they will fight you hard and long. Since they are perfectly ok, it is you who has the problem. They need to stay in their nice comfy bed of nails and complain endlessly about how much they itch.

Pointing out they are laying on a bed of nails will only anger them. Most of the basis of the tv show “lie to me” is based on this concept, that as mental health professions we will see much/much more than we can tell those around us. sometimes clients will want to know, in order to help them fix said behavior patterns. Other times, they will fight against the facts and evidence of their lives with everything they have.

One of the biggest problems I have faced being who I am, and more importantly working to create a think tank where I can express my ideas in a non-violent reaction way from those around me. That is the two-edged sword of; they do not want to be informed they are the problem, but anything which scares them also needs to be fought against with all due hast. Fighting others is the best way to keep the self-distracted from dealing with self-problems. So if they are always looking for an external battle to fight, they never have to see the damage in their own life.

Not unlike the character of Urkel back in the 1980s. He was a walking disaster, but he was completely convinced in all ways that he was the absolute greatest of humans. one of this frequently used lines “I stud muffin like me”. However, most of the people around him found him to be not only annoying, but verging on he had some type of mental health issue for ignoring the constant damage he left in his path. Although this show is a flip flock poetic license of a commentary about the society itself. The fictional character of Urkel was a stereotypical nerd, but that was the joke about those who loved the show. The show was making fun of people who liked the show. People projected their anger, rages, etc. into being able laugh at a fictional character who was completely convinced they were absolutely great, when in reality the character could not have been a bigger screw up. The Nerd part is changed from being a reflection of what society hated. Similar to Neil Simon’s raging insult of the society who accept the fiction that the 8 year old Abbigail Williams was a huge antagonist to the “good guy” John proctor who was 50. That by any reality-based definition is a pedophilic reaction to the situation. Cast the “bad girl” who is all of 8, into being a villain who temps the good man and good people of Salem into performing all those bad actions. It is a reflection of how disassociate the community have become, when they blame a child for their own shortcomings.

Make the 8 year old female temptress into a male nerd, flip the intimacy portion from 50 year old pedophile to a slightly older female (who is not interested at all, in any way, shape, or form), but have the community act and respond to the character in a similar way. Everyone involved with the fictional version on tv and the very real version in 1689 reflect the same levels of “I did I do that” with differnet measures of “I am the greatest” then disassociate again from the real damage and the real problems.