week 2 dq 1 revision
Culture and how to raise
a child (Erickson, 2002).
James Whale the director
of Showboat and Frankenstein in was born as what the culture calls a “flaming queen”
homosexual. His parents and community had literally no idea what to do with
him. He was creative, artistic, imaginative, and so very gay. His culture were
coal miners, as the movie about his final years points out, he was like a
giraffe being raised by an entirely different phylum of creature. They loved
him, tried to nurture him, but in the end all they did was cause him irreversible
pain as an adult.
In a very real effect this dynamic can be more easily
studied using linguistics (Chen, & Bond, 2010). Each specific type of people operate based on their own
language, how to show them proper boundaries is all about communication. Some
people need the rod, some people need a time out. How best to communicate
proper boundaries becomes the central theme.
The cultures who are more
base end industrial discipline a child or an adult is similar, the culture
understand and responds to violence. Yelling, spankings, the belt, etc. are
what the culture understands and responds to. However this is not what artistic
people (sexual orientation aside) respond to. Ultimately James Whale and
similar adults who have been disciplined through the use of rather extreme side
of violence tend to take the scars of that violence. That violence shapes their
life.
The Victorian which
carried over into the Edwardian “spare the rod, spoil the child”, not only
encouraged this type of discipline, in some ways in some western cultures not
using rather extreme violence was seen as a bad parenting technique (Yuksel, & Demicioglu,
2019). In effect if the child is not
“whipped” on a regular basis, that child will grow up spoiled and privileged.
That said “spare the rod”
type of discipline, it prepares the child for adulthood where finding good
people to be around as an adult turns difficult (Borg, & Hodes, 2014). Violence and assaults between people you know become how
adults work out their differences.
In the modern world, we
have come to understand that violence, pain, torture, etc. might come from love
but in truth it does not cause the outcome needed for the modern world (Deater-Deckard,
& Dodge, 1997). Having violence
and pain associated with emotional attachment sends mixed signals. Adults
become in a way blinded to what is good parenting and what is, in effect,
torture.
As opposed to the “time
out” type of discipline where the child needs to spend time just relaxing,
thinking about the actions done, and in effect meditating to find a calmer way
to interact with the world. The end results of violence produces the same as
just a time out but with a rather extreme amount of pain and humiliation added.
Avoid the pain and humiliation and jump to the time out has proved in the last
several decades to be an effective form of child rearing, attachment (kids
learn the difference between what a good boundary is and when people want to
hurt them for x, y, z type of criminal satisfaction. but that is a different
subject.), and emotional management (Kağitçibaşi, ….Cemalcilar,
2009).
My childhood does not
apply well to most scenarios in psychology and sociology. I have several
factors which place me as being an extreme outlier in most categories. First my
father’s family used to be on the extreme side of famous. New York City was
conquered and renamed by a cousin. Yes the island of Manhattan in circa 1680
was seized from the Dutch by a cousin of mine. The University of Edinburg was
founded by my paternal great grandmother’s family. Well about 20 major world
class institutions were founded by my family. About 1000-5000 cities in America
were founded by my family. Automatically places me in an odd very outlander
category. Was born in and spent the first 6 years in Tiffin Ohio. That city was
seized in 1810 from my family through a large sequence of intense battles.
Those battles were of course clandestine, so the winner did their absolute best
to not have those battles become part of history. He who controls the media
controls the population. Descendants of that army still control the city; e.g.
German Town, although they are not Germans they are Prussians. But that is
little difference. At 6 my Irish mother moved us to Colorado Springs Colorado into
a city where instead of virtually the entire population of the area knew me and
was aware of my birth. The exact opposite occurred, not only did no one know
me, but I was a yankee in a western very pro-sons of the confederacy culture.
The culture shock was intense. I was born neuro a typical. I am not Autistic or
Asperger’s, but I was born on the spectrum. The field of Psychology has not
done enough research to understand how neuro a typical works well enough yet to
understand people like me. To most
western cultures, I am not sure which is worse for those so included to be
inappropriate; being gay or being neuro a typical. The reaction to both is
usually the jump to violence, to use peer pressure to make the outliers “act
normal”. I am not gay, to the point I have trouble relating to adult men. I
hate sports, have less than no interest in most conversations adult males have.
I find that adult males talk about virtually the same topics children do but
with larger and more expensive toys. I was not interested in those activities
and playing those games as a child, and have less interest in talking about
them as an adult.
Spanking discipline for the
correct type of culture and people is the perfect way to get the point across
“do not do that”. However, for everyone else who does not respond to said
violence well, the discipline is in fact child abuse verging on torture.
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