week 3 dq 2
The advantages of someone
between the ages of 50-70; where they are not yet ready for some type of
assisted living but have issues with living on their own. Population wide, some
older adults have issues come up (Lamb, 2013).
Positives of a retirement
community; peer community, activities which are designed for your activity
level, medical assistance and other activities may have community vans, life is
designed to assist in bodies which do not work like they did, etc.
Negatives of a retirement
community; little if any contact with family. Friends, family, etc. become very
reluctant to want to venture into those types of areas. Isolation from former
loved ones. Difficulty in being able to connect with all new people who are having
a tough time transitioning from being an active person to needing help.
Nursing home or assisted
living negatives; most families only come to see “the patient” once or twice a
year at most. Christmas, and at times Easter. But family rarely comes around.
Depression sets in going from being active and social to being more and more
isolated.
Nursing home positives;
proper medical care, proper medical support, proper ability to interact with
peers in a safer environment.
Living with family positives
only a few which include being involved in grandchildren’s lives, positive
interactions with family, and meals with family.
Living with family
negatives include becoming a live-in babysitter, bad interactions with adult
children, and declining interactions with peer group.
My wife is older than I
am, several years ago several conversations were performed between her kids and
her regarding living situations (Jensen & Arnett, 2012).
All 4 of her kids decided
that having mom live with them was not only a bad idea, but they could not
think of a positive, minus one.
That one could only think
about a handful of positives which in no way could overcome the negatives.
Those few and far between positives were; built in childcare for 3 kids, at
that time 4 7 9. Shared living expenses. Semi-enjoyment of the company of
another adult. 3 adults with 3 kids. Versus 2 adults (tired working full time)
with 3 kids.
However personality conflicts soon took the
cake and living with “mother in law” became an unacceptable parameter (Saraswathi, 1999).
I am sure for other
families the parameters are completely different, I am sure for other families
having the adult children and the parents live together is a great thing, while
they both deal with the older in this case parent/grandparent (Lewinson,
Robinson-Dooley,& Grant, 2012).
Although the kids start to produce their own, so the grandparents turn into
great grandparents (Russell, Heinlein Storti, & Handy, 2019). Power dynamics change and alter a huge amount in said
situations. Which could be a great thing, but then again could be a horror
story.
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