your issue comes from the Memento Mori Ceremony

Looking to in effect what the culture has told you “look to Jesus” for a savior, direction, a lamp to guild the way.

She is saying to you; you are you, you need to not not not minion to me, or anything. You are you, you need to not be a follower of any given deity. She is not call ing you an equal, she is saying you are you. You need to stand up and be you; you need to be ok with being you. You are not of Hecate, or Jesus, or etc schema Ǽtt or other concepts. Stand on your own.

Example

in the trojan war, when an outside of network war lord would approaches. Specifically in the Hyksos culture, they best come humble, give several runners a countdown and letters of intent. Send messengers back and forth to have the two armies agree to communications.

the interloper when the negotiations occur will likely be stripped of their name and positions to be recorded the documentation of the war lord who agrees to accept and support the interloper. In the trojan war Ajax the lessor agreed to be the sponsor for Moses with his Jewish slave shield wall.

Moses had to not use his name he had to use Ajax the lessor and he had to be his superiors minion. what you are being told “you are not Ajax the lessor, so stop trying to be the minion of someone/something stronger.” You be you, you belong to yourself, you are your own name.

You do not need to be Hecate the lessor, you need to be who you truly are. You have a magical name, which I am seriously nto asking for you to tell me that. I can only think of one thing more rude which I refuse flat out to do either. but you need to be and embrace who you are.